![]() Whilst on this topic, I thought it would be interesting to look at the Judgement tarot card – since those of you who know me well will know that I love a good card reading! Especially if that person is on Facebook! Judgement – Upright and Reversed When someone judges you harshly, you can look at it and see if there is a lesson there for you (and there might not be), but you don’t need to decide to change who you are on the basis of one person’s opinion. You can choose to take an umbrella with you whilst knowing that it might not rain at all. When you can hear someone’s judgement and think to yourself, ‘that’s interesting’, when you can look at it objectively as a piece of data that may or may not be the truth, then you have something powerful. You’ll never be liked by everyone, (again – Sorry!) and every single person on Earth is going to view you differently. In fact, as the quote goes: “other people’s opinions of you are none of your business!” And that can take some time and therapy to unpick.īut I can promise you, that the majority of the time, the average person’s opinion will not have any impact on you – unless you allow it. Judgement from a boss, a teacher or a family members – hurtful words – can be carried for years. ![]() And the opinions of strangers in particular honestly tell you more about them then they do about you. Words can hurt, but only if you let them. And though it can be very hard to do, you CAN choose to ignore those words. All that any sort of judgement will ever be is an opinion. How can you begin to take control in a situation where you might seem to be the victim of judgement? So, it can be difficult to not feel any sort of discomfort around a negative judgement. Our brains have been wired to make us fear any sort of disapproval or dislike. Of course, words hurt! The wrong words can hurt the listener but also the speaker. It’s bollocks and pure truth at the same time. There is a quote – ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me’. It’s so easy for someone to be a keyboard warrior, or bully! ![]() Sorry! It’s an inbuilt human trait to judge others, and it has become even more prevalent with the popularity of social media. Let me tell you right now, that you’re going to be judged. Now let’s look at the verb – to be judged. If we had no sense of judgement, we humans would not be able to identify any dangers, nor would we be able to make decisions on who to surround ourselves with.Īnd that’s not helpful, since it goes without saying that we should always choose to surround ourselves with the right people. If you’re truly making considered decisions – as the definition suggests – then you aren’t being negative, you’re just being human – a.k.a. The dictionary says: Judgement: the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions. I don’t condone making harsh judgements on others for no reason at all! But think, for a second, about what a ‘judgement’ really is. But there is a positive to being judgemental. ![]()
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